A healthy relationship comes from two healthy partners who are in a relationship with each other. A healthy partner handles life properly by having the following attitudes,
1. I have time to do everything I am supposed to do. If you have this attitude then you have searched yourself and decided what it is that is critical in your life and what is not. You know what your priorities are and what you can live without doing. This attitude allows you to say 'no' to those tasks that are not critical to your life plans/goals so that you don't feel overwhelmed by all the things that life and people sometimes thrust at you. This eliminates (or at least minimizes) feelings of being harassed or stressed; of being frazzled or exhausted or weary; feelings of being discouraged; and feelings of guilt for not doing more since there are so many good deeds or causes that one could be involved in.
This allows you to avoid being pushed, through the use of guilt, by well meaning people into activities that you have no passion or interest in. A healthy partner knows what they want to accomplish and they focus their time and energy into those things that further their objectives. Naturally if a relationship is not one of the life objectives of such a person then you will know it as they will put all their energy and focus on everything but the relationship; only self deception can keep you in such a one-sided love relationship.
1. I have time to do everything I am supposed to do. If you have this attitude then you have searched yourself and decided what it is that is critical in your life and what is not. You know what your priorities are and what you can live without doing. This attitude allows you to say 'no' to those tasks that are not critical to your life plans/goals so that you don't feel overwhelmed by all the things that life and people sometimes thrust at you. This eliminates (or at least minimizes) feelings of being harassed or stressed; of being frazzled or exhausted or weary; feelings of being discouraged; and feelings of guilt for not doing more since there are so many good deeds or causes that one could be involved in.
This allows you to avoid being pushed, through the use of guilt, by well meaning people into activities that you have no passion or interest in. A healthy partner knows what they want to accomplish and they focus their time and energy into those things that further their objectives. Naturally if a relationship is not one of the life objectives of such a person then you will know it as they will put all their energy and focus on everything but the relationship; only self deception can keep you in such a one-sided love relationship.
