tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-43814121086523390162024-02-08T08:44:26.233-08:00Healthy RelationshipCommunication is a key part to building a healthy relationship. The first step is making sure you both want and expect the same thingsboyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16122367307572231119noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381412108652339016.post-79382389612228541412012-08-20T02:44:00.000-07:002012-11-09T02:45:34.394-08:00Am I in a Healthy Relationship?<div style="text-align: justify;">
Frequently, my clients and members of our website ask me, "Is my relationship healthy? How do I know if it is healthy?"<br /><br />Just as physical health is on a continuum, emotional health and relationship health are also on a continuum. And, like physical health, each person may have different criteria regarding what constitutes health. For example, some people say they are very healthy if they get a cold or flu a few times a year, while others' health criteria is that they never get sick at all.<br /><br />For some, a healthy relationship is two people who never fight or argue, or who take care of each other and basically agree on everything, or are very easy-going and give in to each other.<br /><br />For others, a healthy relationship is a relationship filled with sexual passion, while others believe that a healthy relationship is when two people can talk things out in ways that reach resolution.<br /><br />Rather than looking for an external definition of a healthy relationship, I suggest that you look inside and define for yourself what is very important to you in a relationship. While your relationship may have all the traditional characteristics of a healthy relationship, if it isn't what you want, then it may not be a healthy relationship for you.</div>
<a name='more'></a><br /><br />Glenn, in his early thirties, was ready to get married and start a family. He had been in a number of long-term relationships that had ended for various reasons. When he consulted with me, he had been in a relationship with Katherine for 3 years. She was pushing to get married and he was resisting, but not understanding why.<br /><br />Glenn and Katherine had much in common. Both were intelligent, emotionally open people, and they both wanted children. They had similar spiritual beliefs, handled money in similar ways, and enjoyed the same activities. Their sex life was good. So what was in the way of Glenn wanting to marry Katherine?<br /><br />"I don't look forward to spending time with her. We don't seem to click when it comes to talking. I love to delve deeply into feelings and ideas. I love sitting at the kitchen table and talking for hours without knowing how late it is. With Katherine, conversation is difficult. Everyone thinks she is so perfect for me, but I don't feel "in love" and I think it's because we don't play off each other with our humor and we can't get into in-depth conversations."<br /><br />Glenn had never before articulated how important this was to him in a relationship. Without this, the relationship was flat.<br /><br />It was hard for Glenn to end the relationship with Katherine, because even though he wasn't in love with her, he did love her and didn't want to hurt her. But he knew he was not going to marry her.<br /><br />A year after ending his relationship with Katherine, Glenn met Liz at a party. From the moment they started to talk, Glenn felt that, not only had he known Liz all his life, but that they could talk for hours. And talk for hours they did - and they still talk for hours after getting married and having children. Glenn says he is delighted with his healthy relationship!<br /><br />So what does a healthy relationship mean to you?<br /><br />A healthy relationship is one where: (you might want to mark the ones that for you constitute a healthy relationship)<br /><br /> We can talk about anything without fear of the other's anger or withdrawal.<br /> We support each other in doing what makes each of us happy.<br /> We each take responsibility for our own feelings and are able to share love, rather than expecting the other to fill us up with love.<br /> We laugh easily together and have a lot of fun with each other.<br /> We have similar interests and enjoy much companionship.<br /> We each contribute financially.<br /> We each contribute with household responsibilities and/or childcare.<br /> We find each other endlessly interesting and always look forward to spending time together talking and sharing ideas.<br /> We have deep trust, respect, and admiration for each other.<br /> We have a wonderful sex life.<br /> We are both very affectionate and love to hold, cuddle, and kiss.<br /> We share common spiritual values.<br /> We have the same religion.<br /> Other - add your own.<br /><br />We each have the right to decide what is most important to us in a relationship. If you find that you are not in a healthy relationship, don't despair! By doing your own Inner BondingĀ® work, there is a good possibility that you CAN heal your relationship.<br /><br />Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Margaret_Paul,_Ph.D.<br />boyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16122367307572231119noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381412108652339016.post-7876654406788001212012-08-19T02:41:00.000-07:002012-11-09T02:43:49.465-08:0010 Easy Steps For A Healthy Relationship<div style="text-align: justify;">
Are you ready for real love? In this day and age of fast-paced and short-lived relationships, it's challenging and many times difficult, to find good, solid, effective, and useful, information that helps to build healthy and long-lasting romantic relationships. Whether you're single, married, divorced, or looking-to-be-married, these time-tested steps will help you and your current or future mate to create a long-lasting romantic bliss:<br /><br />1) Always Be Your "True" Self<br /><br />You are wonderfully and uniquely made by a loving Creator. If you find that you have to act or try to become someone you weren't born to be, in order to fulfill someone else's expectation, then something is seriously wrong. A true love will appreciate you for who you are and what you bring to the relationship, and vice-versa. If you feel as if you're being pressured to alter your character to do things you wouldn't usually do (drink, drugs, pre-mature sex, lie) so that the person will continue to see you, that's a certain sign that things are unhealthy. Your true love will gladly embrace you just for who you are--so don't be afraid, step out in faith and show your true self.<br /><br />2) Develop Deep Communication with Each Other<br /><br />A healthy relationship goes much deeper that a surface affair. Even though you may both look good arm-in-arm, or standing next to each other, whether at a concert, family reunion, Movie Theater, or at church, can you talk when you're alone? What's going on in your conversations--are they deep and meaningful or surface and bland? Do you discuss personal hopes, dreams and goals, or just talk about the weather and the plot to the latest drama? Can you count on each other to lend a listening ear, good advice, and undivided attention?</div>
<a name='more'></a><br /><br />Good, honest, and deep conversation will keep you deeply connected. When in doubt, talk it out. Always keep the lines of communication open in your relationship.<br /><br />3) Don't Ignore, but Explore Your Differences<br /><br />Do your personalities blend well? Is one of you on the optimistic path while the other is on the pessimistic side of the road? Opposites may initially attract, but eventually they can repel each other. It's important that your personalities are compatible.<br /><br />If one views life through rose colored glasses, while the other is always singing-the-blues, then you have to make some sort of adjustment to accommodate each other. The simple truth is oil and vinegar make an excellent salad dressing, but they don't mix well in romantic relationships, unless both personalities can explore each other and find some sort of balance. If you can adjust and love each other's personalities, regardless of any differences, and bring out the best when you're together, then this is a winning combo, and you could very well be a dynamic-duo in a life-long healthy relationship.<br /><br />4) Share Similar Interest and Values<br /><br />You don't have to have the exact interests. As a matter of fact, having diverse preferences can help you to share new and exciting things with each other. However, make sure you have at least a few common interests, so it won't be an ongoing battle over what to do and where to go to keep you both satisfied. You may have to compromise in some areas like sports, politics, movies, shopping, music, etc. Keep in mind that compromising doesn't mean depriving each other of their individual interests but instead it means participating in each other's interests.<br /><br />5) Discuss Your Spiritual Beliefs Together<br /><br />If you're not on common ground with your beliefs about who and what God means to each of you, this will eventually cause a rift in your relationship. Don't try to conceal your true beliefs and hope that it will all just one day fall in place--it won't. Make sure you talk about your faith honestly and openly with each other. There's a wise adage that states, "The couple that prays together, stays together."<br /><br />6) Appreciate Each Other's Unique Body Temple<br /><br />Let's face it, we're all built differently. We come in a variety of shapes, sizes, and shades. In order to have a healthy physical and emotional relationship, you must embrace and appreciate each other's total package. One of the worse things a couple can do to each other is to fantasize or try to fit their mate into someone else's body image. When you throw away preconceived "ideal body type" perceptions, you'll enjoy the true worth of your partner.<br /><br />I remember years ago, one of my college friends, Nicolette, a five-foot-eight-inch, former beauty queen, adamantly refused to date any man under the six-foot mark. Her preconceived idea of the "ideal match" was "an athletic hunk who would be paid well for playing ball--footfall, basketball, or baseball would qualify him--as long as he had the height, the muscles, and the billfold."<br /><br />Well, after a whole lot of heartbreaks, shallow relationships, and a completely new outlook on life, she eagerly reports that she has been very happily married to a five-foot-five-inch dentist for over five years and "has since been blessed with two wonderful children to complete her healthy marriage."<br /><br />Nicolette would have missed out on the love of her life had she remained stuck with false perceptions. Don't let this happen to you. Admire, appreciate, and enjoy your companion's body temple.<br /><br />7) Talk About "The S-&M Factor" (Sex & Money)<br /><br />Two of the biggest destroyers of healthy relationships are the misuse, abuse, lack of or over-use of sex and money (the S & M Factor). Both are very important and very personal in your love life. Yet, unfortunately, most couples make the mistake of not setting quality time aside early in their relationship to discuss these two vital components. To put it bluntly, "You've got to know where you're heading, before you get to the bedding; and know what you're spending before it gets beyond mending."<br /><br />In deep romantic relationships, there is a world of difference between "having sex" and "making love," just as there is a major difference between being "involved" and "being in love." The misuse of sex, just like the misuse of money, causes major turbulence in relationships. These can be dangerous influences which overwhelm your relationship; or they can be healthy tools for intimacy and success. It's up to both you and your partner to know what sex and money means to each of you, and to make sure that you share your beliefs and feelings with each other. Otherwise, both the sex and money issues can become major conflicts which will destroy even the deepest love.<br /><br />8) Try to Get Along With Each Other's Friends-n-Families<br /><br />Although your happiness ultimately depends on how well the two of you get along with each other, some input from loved ones can be frosting on the cake. Do you have a healthy interaction with each other's close associates? Make sure you ask some supportive family members and/or dear friends their opinion about your choice in mate. If the advice is not what you want to hear, examine it closely, evaluate the source, pray about it, and make up your own mind anyway. Make sure you also meet your mate's family and closest friends, and discreetly observe their interactions with each other. Look if there is any dysfunctional family pattern that you need to address and get help with. There is a wise old saying, "Show me your company, I'll tell you who you are." Chances are, if your partner has a healthy interaction with loved ones, you will also get the same treatment--and so much more!<br /><br />9) Stay Away From Negative People<br /><br />It's important to make a special note here, that although the interactions of relatives and friends can be a plus in building a healthy relationship, some, unfortunately, can also be a minus. If you face unhealthy interference and discouragement from loved ones because of their personal insecurities, don't let them have any influence in your relationship. Both you and your mate must be on the same page and decide to keep negative people out of your personal love life in order to love and grow together in a harmonious, healthy relationship.<br /><br />10) Learn to Laugh Together<br /><br />This one doesn't need much explanation--if there's no joy, there's very little hope. Laughter keeps love alive. Find something that you can both get a good hearty laugh from. Here's a little secret that works wonders: A good sense of humor and a pleasant disposition has a magnetic attraction that makes people always want to be in your presence. How can that special person resist your gorgeous smile and sparkling eyes? Go ahead, laugh a bit--have fun and enjoy!<br /><br />There you have it--the practical, useful and effective steps that will surely enhance your current or future relationship. You deserve to have an enjoyable, exciting, and loving healthy relationship with someone who loves you, just for who you are. You are worth it!<br /><br />Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Dr._Grace_Cornish_Livingstone<br />boyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16122367307572231119noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381412108652339016.post-75974647899183370322012-08-18T02:39:00.000-07:002012-11-09T02:41:25.401-08:00Healthy Relationship Quiz - Find Out Where You Rate in the Healthy Relationship Stakes<div style="text-align: justify;">
You need to complete a healthy relationship quiz to see where you rate in the healthy relationship stakes. It may be an opportunity for you to find out how to develop healthy relationships, and learn the traits of a healthy relationship, as you may not be clear about this.<br /><br />The first thing to let you know about the primary characteristics of healthy relationships, is that there needs to be equality between you.<br /><br />In my view it is not possible to have the elements of a healthy relationship unless you and your partner have equal status, and this needs to be one of the top relationship questions in your healthy relationship quiz. Unless there is equality between you, you will have endless relationship issues that will afflict you the whole time, leading to one long serious relationship problem.<br /><br />The reason I tell you this is because during all my years as a counselor, one of the most common problems in a relationship I have dealt with, is inequality.<br /><br />I came to refer to it as the 'same old story' because I came across it so often. The reason why it creates such common marriage relationship problems, is because you have a situation where there is an imbalance between you. This means you are not on the same level as there is an unevenness between you, making it very difficult for you to function at all. It's a bit like having a vehicle with four wheels that are all different sizes. Can you imagine how lopsided it would be, and how impossible it would be to operate such a vehicle?</div>
<a name='more'></a><br /><br />And so it is with your healthy relationship quiz. It is essential you have equality as your first answer as the imbalance otherwise leads to numerous relationship problems, not least of all, are relationship communication problems.<br /><br />When you have equality between you, as one of the traits of a healthy relationship, it means you do not have relationship communication problems.<br /><br />It means you relate as equals, and function smoothly like a vehicle with four wheels of equal size. You respect and acknowledge each other, and one way this is demonstrated is that you each listen to the other, rather than having the relationship communication problems that are associated with having an imbalance.<br /><br />The results of your healthy relationship quiz, will provide the relationship help you are looking for, if you recognize there is an imbalance between you.<br /><br />It would not surprise me if you do discover inequality between you, as this is the case with so many couples, many of whom don't recognize this, or acknowledge it.<br /><br />Often it can be so subtle. There are things that happen that are not seen in this light. There are many circumstances in emotionally abusive relationships, or mentally abusive relationships, that fit into this category.<br /><br />The subtle aspect can be connected to the supposed humor often associated with this type of abusive relationship, and this can be confusing for the person on the receiving end.<br /><br />Occasionally I watch programs like Dr Phil and the Oprah Winfrey Show. They are often dealing with some aspects of abusive relationships or sexual abuse, highlighting how these features are common and widespread.<br /><br />If you do realize inequality is one of the answers to your healthy relationship quiz test, it will be vital for you to take steps to do something about one of the most common problems in a relationship. As I have said, this is what I have found in my experience, and one comes across it so often otherwise as well.<br /><br />Some time ago I gave a talk to a group of about 30 women in a private dwelling that had no difficulty catering for such a large number of people. They were all impeccably dressed and most had arrived in late model up-market vehicles. In other words, it was a 'well-to-do' group of women.<br /><br />My talk was titled "Subtle Aspects of Abuse in Relationships." I had their full attention. It was so quiet you could have heard a pin drop. After my talk I had a significant number of them wanting to come and see me as clients, as they became aware they would not have passed a healthy relationship quiz test.<br /><br />I may have been laboring the point somewhat in what I have written here, but equality is one of the essential characteristics of healthy relationships, and if this is not one of the elements of your relationship, it needs to be addressed.<br /><br />When you do make the necessary changes, you will pass the healthy relationship quiz with flying colors, and this will enhance your relationship and life experience, otherwise you will be missing out big time!<br /><br />Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Leo_L_Ryan<br />boyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16122367307572231119noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381412108652339016.post-8349696767350089012012-07-31T02:45:00.000-07:002012-11-09T02:47:52.083-08:00How to Maintain a Healthy Relationship<div style="text-align: justify;">
Maintaining a healthy relationship in the light of breakups and separation which occurs frequently between boyfriends and girlfriends, and lovers; divorce, law suits and issues with regards to single parenting that occurs between Spouses, Couples or partners is fast becoming a growing concern among those who are into love relationships and boy/girl affairs already as well as for those who are getting set to enter the arena of love, dating and romance newly.<br /><br />All those who are into troubled marriages or are in crisis ridden relationships and affairs must endeavor to return back to learn and master the art of creating and maintaining a healthy relationship today rather than throw in the towel, quit or give up on their once beautiful, lovely, romantic and resourceful relationship or love affair.<br /><br />Creating a healthy love relationship and maintaining a healthy affair with the opposite sex is a matter of choice, how prepared both of you are and how committed you are both set to work as boyfriend and girlfriend, lovers, partners, Couples or Spouses at building a relationship that both of you will enjoy and be proud of. To get you started are a few thought provoking tips on how to maintain a healthy relationship and which you should find quite helpful:</div>
<a name='more'></a><br /><br />1. Be Yourself. Learn to accept who you are because you are unique and special in your own peculiar way. Being real no matter your estate or position in life is a contributing factor to maintaining a healthy relationship.<br /><br />2. Accept your Friend, Lover, Spouse or Partner the way he/she is. Contentment in a love relationship is another important factor for maintaining a healthy relationship.<br /><br />3. Communicate and share your personal goals, dreams, ambitions, hopes and aspirations, challenges and disappointments together. In addition, also get to discuss your individual expectations for getting involved in a love affair or relationship with your boyfriend, girlfriend, lover or Spouse.<br /><br />4. Committed Work. Both of you must invest in and work in an agreeable manner to build and maintain your relationship as a healthy, romantic, resourceful and enjoyable one.<br /><br />5. Forgive wrongs and overlook faults or shortcomings. Both of you must master your emotions and learn how to resolve conflicts. You must realize that there is no love relationship or affair that is immune to crisis, troubles, challenges, etc.<br /><br />6. Pray together. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding (wealth, prowess, affluence, learning, etc). Remember to commit your lives, relationship, undertakings, etc in to God's care.<br /><br />7. Make out quality time to play, have fun and enjoy the presence of your boyfriend, girlfriend, lover, partner or Spouse in your life and world. Bask in the euphoria of each others' love, care, affection and attention.<br /><br />The difference between a healthy relationship and a crisis ridden relationship is a matter of;<br /><br />1. The choices you make,<br />2. The information you are exposed to, access or possess, and<br />3. Action on your part or committed work together.<br /><br />A healthy relationship is easy to achieve and maintain when you know what things to do and not get to do. To make your relationship or love affair last a very long time indeed, both of you must endeavor to build and get it to work. visit Healthy Relationships for more useful resources in your journey or quest to maintain a healthy relationship beginning from now on.<br /><br />Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Tosin_Ajibowo<br />boyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16122367307572231119noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381412108652339016.post-44652998799039743162012-07-30T02:48:00.000-07:002012-11-09T02:52:46.154-08:005 Signs of a Healthy Relationship<div style="text-align: justify;">
We all want a healthy relationship. We all know that a healthy relationship will give us a chance for real happiness. But what makes a healthy relationship?<br /><br />You Have To Like Each Other<br /><br />There are a lot of important things that go into creating a healthy relationship. None of it matters if you do not like your partner. Given that you could be together for decades, can you imaging being with someone you did not like, or loathed. To make everything work, you have to like each other. If you want a healthy relationship you have to be able to share your lives with each other, you have to be each others best friend, you have to be able to confide I them, go to them for help and support, and know that they will be there for you. All this can only happen if you like your partner.<br /><br />You Need To Be Able To Talk To Your Partner<br /><br />Have you ever looked at how communication impacts on our lives, there are very few areas that it does not touch. Can you imagine a relationship without communication, just how dull, lifeless, and boring would it be? In a healthy relationship you need to be able to share each others lives, you need to learn everything that there is to know about your partner. I admit that this sounds pretty intense, but look at it another way. Your partner is the person that you love most, you want to do what you can to make them happy, in making them happy you make yourself happy. You need to know your partners wants and needs so that you can provide help and support where it is needed. Apart from giving you plenty to talk about, sharing your lives brings you closer. To do all of this, you need to be able to talk to your partner.</div>
<a name='more'></a><br /><br />You Need To Enjoy Being Together<br /><br />People in a healthy relationship enjoy spending time with their partners, it brings them closer together, and as an added bonus, it is fun. Spending quality, fun time together allows you to relax, forget about your cares, and draw closer to each other. No matter how busy you are I life, you always need to set aside time to be with each other. Without a bit of YOU time you could lose your connection with each other. If you are not doing anything fun together your relationship can become stale and boring. You do not have to spend a fortune on this. Go to a movie, go for a walk, or just curl up in front of the T.V together. Find new things to do together, take a class, try sharing each others interests, the possibilities are endless. It does not matter what you are doing, all that is important is that the two of you are together, enjoying each others company and reconnecting.<br /><br />Be Romantic<br /><br />People in a healthy relationship appreciate the importance of romance. Some of you might be saying, oh woe is me for I am not a romantic, to which I answer, rubbish. People are not born romantics, it is a skill that they learn. Romance adds a sparkle to any relationship, it makes life interesting, and it keeps the relationship exciting. There are a lot of simple romantic gestures that you can make. You can call, text or email your partner just to let them know that you love them. You can leave them a note to find. You can send flowers or chocolates. Go for a cup of coffee or a walk together. If you are looking for inspiration there are plenty of romantic movies that you can watch. What is important is that you are doing something for your partner, because you want to make them happy. Whatever you do, whether it is complicated or simple, make it something from the heart, those are the gestures that really mean something.<br /><br />Accept Each other For Who You Are<br /><br />This one can be difficult, but if you hope to have a healthy relationship you need to accept the whole package, not just the bits that you like. You need to have realistic expectations of your relationship, this may surprise some, but what you see at the movies is only a story, it is not real life. Do not go into the relationship with a fixed, pre-conceived idea as to what your relationship will be like, and then try build everything around it, that is just not healthy. You are two unique individuals, which makes your relationship a unique creation, you need to work with each other to create the best relationship that you can. You will probably see faults in your partner, they will probably see faults in you. There are certain habits that can be worked on, such as excavating your nostrils and then consuming the contents, in public. The person that you both fell in love with already had these imperfections, do not try to change them into someone they are not, you might find that you do not love the new person.<br /><br />So there you are, my 5 signs for a healthy relationship. I think that if you like your partner, if they are someone you can talk to, if you enjoy being with them, if you can add a romantic sparkle to things, and if you can accept each other for who you are, and so long as your partner feels the same, then you should enjoy a loving, happy, healthy relationship which I hope will last for a very long time.<br /><br />Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Michael_Finlayson<br />boyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16122367307572231119noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381412108652339016.post-82074972767177121692012-07-29T02:53:00.000-07:002012-11-09T02:55:39.962-08:00Healthy Relationships - How to Develop Them<div style="text-align: justify;">
There are many people whose preference is to have healthy, happy relationships with the people in their lives... whether they are parent-child relationships, marriage or love relationships, family relationships, friendships, or even relationships with work colleagues. Building healthy relationships is a normal and natural desire. In fact, healthy relationships are a vital aspect of mental health, and general health and wellness. So what do we need to know about building and maintaining healthy relationships?<br /><br />Let us define some of the qualities of healthy relationships:<br /><br /> Each person takes responsibility for their own needs<br /> You can easily discuss conflict and differences, without blame<br /> The relationship is important to each person involved<br /> Each person communicates openly and honestly<br /> Abuse is absent -- this includes physical, verbal, or emotional abuse<br /> Each person has healthy boundaries -- can say "no" to requests without feelings of guilt<br /><br />Certainly, it is important for each party in a relationship to understand, and be able to practice these aspects when interacting with others. It is my belief, however, that the key to healthy relationships is found, first, in our interactions with our Self, with our Inner Being.<a name='more'></a><br /><br />What is your relationship like with your Inner Being?<br /><br /> Are you in conflict with yourself?<br /> Do you ever heap blame on yourself?<br /> Do you get angry or frustrated with yourself?<br /> Is your relationship with your Inner Being important to you?<br /> Do you communicate openly and honestly with your Inner Being?<br /> Do you abuse yourself...with thoughts, or words?<br /> Can you follow your inner guidance without feeling guilt?<br /><br />If your relationship with your Inner Being is not a healthy one, then keeping up a healthy relationship with others in your life could be challenging for you. The relationship you have with your Inner Being is the most important relationship you will ever have... and every other relationship is a reflection (in some way) of that most intimate, inner one.<br /><br />Do you ever feel angry or frustrated with yourself, or blame and criticize yourself? Your Inner Being never argues with you, or blames you, or gets angry or frustrated or disappointed with you... your Inner Being always beams pure, positive, love energy to you -- without exception. If you blame or criticize yourself, then you are in conflict with your Inner Being -- and you feel that tension through negative emotions.<br /><br />Do you value your relationship with your Inner Being? Is it important to you to feel good, and feel happy? When you value your relationship with your Inner Being, then you make every effort you can to feel happy, and to focus your attention on thoughts that feel good when you think them.<br /><br />Do you communicate honestly and openly with your Inner Being? This is as easy as tuning in to your emotions. Your emotions give you feedback about your relationship with your Inner Being...when you feel positive, happy emotions, then you are in tune with your Inner Being. Negative emotions show that you are thinking of something that does not agree with what your Inner Being knows.<br /><br />Do you take time to nurture your relationship with your Inner Being? Do you nurture and soothe yourself? There are many ways you can nurture your spirit...you can meditate or listen to soothing music. You can also nurture yourself by thinking of someone you love, or taking a warm bath, or by taking a walk, or by just giving yourself permission to chill...just for a moment.<br /><br />Do you abuse yourself with thoughts or words? It always feels good to receive support and encouragement from others...but we can also be supportive and encouraging toward ourselves. This can mean not asking or demanding too much of ourselves in time and effort -- by realizing that you don't have to do whatever-it-is this minute. We can applaud our efforts, and focus on what we did right (and not what went wrong).<br /><br />Can you follow your Inner Guidance without feeling guilty? Do you trust your emotions and your 'gut' feelings? I have noticed that when I follow my 'gut' feelings and trust my emotions, my path always leads to new and improved experiences -- I feel inspired, and creative, and passionate, and alive.<br /><br />So...what is your relationship like with your Inner Being?<br /><br />If you make the effort to improve your relationship with your Inner Being, and make it a healthy one, then every other relationship in your experience will also improve, and you will enjoy healthy relationships.<br /><br />Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Bec_Owen</div>
boyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16122367307572231119noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381412108652339016.post-30926025408747040172012-06-17T03:00:00.000-07:002012-11-09T03:01:37.180-08:00Communication - A Major Player in a Healthy Relationship<div style="text-align: justify;">
Relations need to be healthy in order for people to be content and happy. The question arises that what does a healthy relationship mean? Each relationship is unique and the feelings and emotions associated are also different for each person. There are multiple relations that a person encounters during their life; parents, siblings, family, friends and above all the spousal relationship. Some of the sentiments that people feel in a relationship include love, care, concern, happiness as well as anger, hurt and hate. A relationship cannot be called healthy just because people seem to be happy or enjoying themselves. Keeping a relationship alive and content requires sacrifices, compromises, care, love and above all communication.<br /><br />There are a few steps or points that can help you determine if you are in a healthy relationship or not. Loyalty and trust are perhaps the backbone of any and all relationships. You need to have pure and honest feelings and intentions towards the people you are in a relationship with. They need to be able to trust you and your word without second guessing you or your intentions. The best way to establish trust between two people is to make sure that the other knows about how you feel and to spend quality time with each other. You will see that in relationships, communication is the most important thing; communication can be used to convey your intentions and help you gain trust over each other.</div>
<a name='more'></a><br /><br />Respect and dependability are also very important factors as you need to know that you can depend on each other in time of need. Sometimes in daily life there are very small things that you need such as a bit of pampering or some small gesture to feel that the other person is there for you and cares about you. Mutual respect is the other thing that keeps a relationship healthy as you need to respect each others' space and their wishes. For a relationship to healthy there needs to be two-way traffic, because no matter how much one party tries if the other person is not reciprocating then the relationship will eventually fail.<br /><br />To be in a healthy relationship you need to be responsible for your own happiness by the decisions you make and by how well you play your part. Again communication helps to establish a base or a mutual agreement that two people can follow in order to smoothly follow with their relation. A relationship is a learning experience and you may make a few mistakes as you go along but communication and care can overcome many obstacles. On a last note, forgiveness also plays a major role in keeping a relationship healthy and alive.<br /><br />For more details about love and relationship visit bratz love meter.<br /><br />Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Shahbaz_Ali_Mayo<br />boyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16122367307572231119noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381412108652339016.post-9865349292165083532012-06-16T02:59:00.000-07:002012-11-09T03:00:02.957-08:00Healthy Relationships, Key Attitudes of Successful Partners<div style="text-align: justify;">
A healthy relationship comes from two healthy partners who are in a relationship with each other. A healthy partner handles life properly by having the following attitudes,<br /><br />1. I have time to do everything I am supposed to do. If you have this attitude then you have searched yourself and decided what it is that is critical in your life and what is not. You know what your priorities are and what you can live without doing. This attitude allows you to say 'no' to those tasks that are not critical to your life plans/goals so that you don't feel overwhelmed by all the things that life and people sometimes thrust at you. This eliminates (or at least minimizes) feelings of being harassed or stressed; of being frazzled or exhausted or weary; feelings of being discouraged; and feelings of guilt for not doing more since there are so many good deeds or causes that one could be involved in.<br /><br />This allows you to avoid being pushed, through the use of guilt, by well meaning people into activities that you have no passion or interest in. A healthy partner knows what they want to accomplish and they focus their time and energy into those things that further their objectives. Naturally if a relationship is not one of the life objectives of such a person then you will know it as they will put all their energy and focus on everything but the relationship; only self deception can keep you in such a one-sided love relationship.</div>
<a name='more'></a><br /><br />If however such a person has prioritized relationships then yours will be a healthy and balanced relationship as they will make time for you and they will spend their time and energy wisely in you and your relationship.<br /><br />2. I cannot do it all! If you have this attitude you have realized that you cannot be perfect in every single role. You cannot be an ideal partner; a perfect parent; run a perfect house or business; be a model friend; prepare healthy and scrumptious meals every single day; run every project meticulously etc. This attitude frees you from constant exhaustion since you have given yourself permission not to be perfect. It's not that you are tardy; you just do your best and then you don't stress if it's not perfect. This frees up your time since you don't keep redoing things in a bid to make them perfect. A partner with this attitude is real with you, they do not pretend to be what they are not and you get exactly what you see.<br /><br />3. I need to invest in my relationships. If you have this attitude then you will not take your partner for granted as you will realize that you cannot just keep receiving from your partner. You know that a healthy relationship, like a healthy bank account, requires you to make large deposit and smaller withdrawals in order to stay healthy. This attitude allows you to be creative in your relationship as you explore ways to invest in your relationship.<br /><br />If you can make these three attitudes part of who you are then you will be a healthy partner who can be part of a healthy relationship.<br /><br />However if you just don't know the relationship health status of your partner then I strongly recommend these relationship questions to help you ask all the relevant questions but if you want help identifying what is wrong and changing it then check out these relationship insights.<br /><br />Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Rosy_Anderson<br />boyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16122367307572231119noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381412108652339016.post-74453133712519772602012-06-15T02:55:00.000-07:002012-11-09T02:57:51.035-08:00A Healthy Relationship - 3 Ingredients You Must Have<div style="text-align: justify;">
After being in a relationship for some time, it is often natural to wonder if the love between you and your partner will last a lifetime. Most relationships take work, but more than that, there are certain pieces of the "pie" that must be present in order for the relationship to reach its full potential. So, what makes a healthy relationship? What are the necessary ingredients to make sure you and your partner stay together happily for a long time to come?<br /><br />Compatibility<br /><br />Compatibility is very important in maintaining a healthy and progressive long-term relationship. In order to be compatible, you and your partner must share a fair amount of similar interests. In addition to common interests, you should both share a similar way of thinking and have common opinions on a wide variety of subjects. Of course, where there are differences of opinions and interests, you and your partner should be comfortable with and accept those different interests as a part of the relationship as a whole. Lack of compatibility can often lead to or be indicated by excessive arguing which, in the long run, will surely hinder the progress of the relationship and/or end it altogether.</div>
<a name='more'></a><br /><br />Friendship<br /><br />Friendship is what makes a healthy relationship. It is probably the most important ingredient for a long-term, healthy relationship. In fact, your love partner should be your best friend. You should be able to count on them when help is needed and vice versa. You should share a level of trust between you that allows you both to be open and honest about your feelings, needs, desires, and so on. Without friendship, your relationship is based on little more than lust or physical attraction which, by themselves, will only sustain a relationship for so long.<br /><br />Passion<br /><br />Even when you and your partner do share common interests and are the best of friends, passion plays an important role in whether or not the relationship will continue to progress. Though passion alone isn't what makes a healthy relationship, both you and your partner should feel a certain "magic" or bond between the two of you that goes beyond that of a close friendship. While it does take much more than physical or emotional attraction to sustain a healthy long-term relationship, both are still necessary ingredients in a relationship to keep things interesting and exciting. Without that "spark," you and your partner could be left with the feeling that something important is missing and even lead one or both of you in search of filling that void elsewhere.<br /><br />Assessing your relationship is essential in knowing where you and your partner are headed. Is there potential for a promising future together, or is it time to move on? Without compatibility, friendship, and that "warm, fuzzy feeling," your relationship lacks the necessary ingredients to sustain itself through the "ups and downs" that come hand-in-hand with all long-term relationships.<br /><br />Take the time to recognize what is a healthy relationship when you have it. Look for compatibility, passion, and true friendship with those potential partners when you're searching for the next great relationship. If the necessary ingredients are there, then enjoy the ride. Your relationship could surely last a lifetime.<br /><br />Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Anthony_S_Carter<br />boyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16122367307572231119noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381412108652339016.post-63005736132995962142012-05-18T03:01:00.000-07:002012-11-09T03:03:16.749-08:00Benefits of Maintaining the Healthy Relationship<div style="text-align: justify;">
Strong positive relationships are essential to achieving our success. We are in almost constant contact with others and we should make every contact an opportunity to strengthen our social skills and reinforce our relationships. We can benefit a lots from healthy long-term relationship.<br /><br />Healthy relationships are fun and make you feel good about yourself. You can have a healthy relationship with anyone in your life, including your family, friends and dating partners. The relationships that you make in your teen years will be a special part of your life and will teach you some of the most important lessons about who you are.<br /><br />Healthy relationships are essential to our happiness and emotional health. They also have a positive effect on our physical health. It will influence everything from heart health to age-related health issues. Maintaining healthy relationships is not easy but it can be done.<br /><br />In healthy relationship, we trust each other. Once we experience trust with others, we can be honest about our weaknesses and shortcomings because we know that we will be accepted for who we are, without judgment or criticism.</div>
<a name='more'></a><br /><br />If you maintain a healthy relationship, you can get support from your partners. Our lives go through many changes and difficulties. In either case, they often make us uncomfortable and challenge us to grow and become more than we were before. Healthy relationships give us the support and encouragement we need to rise to new and different challenges.<br /><br />Having someone who are willing to listen silently when you are feeling down or frustrated and want to 'vent' gives you the freedom to express yourself. Sometimes you just need to get something off your chest without feeling like you have to watch every word you say.<br /><br />Individuals in long-term relationships have a history of shared experiences that build a mutual understanding so they 'get you' without a lot of explanation.<br /><br />If you have a healthy relationship, there is always someone to call on when you need a hand. Everyone, from time to time, needs a hand from a friend, colleague, peer, or family member. This can be in the form of advice, a new job, or assistance with a particular project in which you need to call on another peoples' expertise.<br /><br />Sharing your life with friends who you trust, who accept, understand and support you reduces stress because you have camaraderie and, therefore, less potential for interpersonal conflicts. Good relationships bring about the best in work teams and families by reducing the anxieties that cause stress and, at the same time, good relationships cultivate a sense of well-being and emotional security.<br /><br />Having good relationships mean that there is a mutual like for one another. Being around people you like and who like you create situations that are harmonious, supportive, and well, happy. You have an overall feeling of satisfaction in your life.<br /><br />Leading eBooks Company<br /><br />Click to find more about Healthy Relationship<br /><br />Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Xiang_Yu<br />boyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16122367307572231119noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381412108652339016.post-39424188356136796732012-05-17T03:03:00.000-07:002012-11-09T03:05:13.810-08:00Prescription for Healthy Relationships<div style="text-align: justify;">
Human beings have an inherent need to develop meaningful relationships. We all want to share our goals, ideas, joys, sorrows, desires, affection and experiences with someone else. However, we all fall short at times in handling the mechanics of them. There are times when we need to "doctor" up or even perform "surgery" on some of our relationships.<br /><br />Do you experience any of the following symptoms in any of your relationships?<br /><br />o Frequent arguments<br /><br />o Low energy conversations<br /><br />o Apathy regarding the relationship<br /><br />o Lack of interaction/no desire for proximity<br /><br />o Continuously looking for "something better"<br /><br />We go to the doctor for regular checkups, but how often do we check the health of our relationships? Just like your physical health, positive relationships-whether they are romantic, social or professional-require maintenance. Good relationships don't just "happen." Just as our physical bodies get sick from time to time, most relationships go through periods of "illness" as well. Fortunately, with proper treatment, these relationships can "recover" and thrive.</div>
<a name='more'></a><br /><br />Being constantly on guard for symptoms of illness within your relationships will help keep them healthy and prosperous. People who have healthy relationships are happier and less stressed.<br /><br />If you answered "yes" to any of the above symptoms, you might be in an unhealthy relationship. If so, here are some possible "remedies":<br /><br />Regular check-ups - to determine the overall health of your relationship, it is important to regularly communicate with your partner, friend, relative or associate to determine how they are feeling about the relationship. Set a regular period, depending on the relationship - monthly, quarterly, etc. to get together for the sole purpose of assessing the relationship.<br /><br />Relationship checklist/chart - discuss what is working and what is not working in your relationship. Work on the issues and revisit them to see if the "stats" have improved at the next check-in.<br /><br />"Weigh in" on your relationship - each of you should share your feelings with the other person. Be open and honest about what you are experiencing and listen carefully to his or her concerns.<br /><br />Take the "temperature" of your relationships. Is it running hot or cold? Do you still enjoy each others' company and/or benefit from the association. Is it moving in a positive direction?<br /><br />Measure the "pulse"? Is it strong or weak? Is the bond between you growing stronger or weaker from one check-in to the next?<br />Use the correct prescription - know the right dosage of love and caring to share with that person, remembering that the prescription will be unique for each individual.<br /><br />Know yourself - just as you pay attention to your body's signals when it is experiencing injury or illness, know your personal reactions to the situations you encounter in your relationships and how those situations affect you. Know your "numbers" and how to read your results.<br /><br />Read the warning signs/symptoms - as indicated above, watch for "key indications" that might indicate that there is a malignancy in your relationship.<br /><br />Here are some of the "vital signs" of a healthy relationship:<br /><br />o Built on respect, trust and caring<br /><br />o Allows each person to be an individual and to grow personally<br /><br />o Allows for differences of opinion and interests<br /><br />o Apologizes, talks things out and moves on<br /><br />o Knows how to respect each others' "space"<br /><br />o Enjoys each other's company<br /><br />o Benefits from each other's opinions<br /><br />o Supports each other's goals<br /><br />o Contains open communication and sharing of thoughts and ideas as well as active listening<br /><br />o Establishes boundaries that the other knows not to cross<br /><br />o Has common interests, but also values differences<br /><br />o Picks their battles by determining what is really<br />important and what issues are not worth arguing about and works on one issue at a time.<br /><br />o Comfortable saying "no" when necessary<br /><br />o Expresses appreciation for each other to reaffirm respect and affection<br /><br />In a healthy relationship, you should not be afraid to speak your mind. No type of relationship should cause you to compromise or doubt who you are. People who have your best interests at heart will never ask you to be someone you are not or to compromise what you believe in. Before being open with anyone else, you must first be honest with yourself about who you are, what you are seeking from another person and what you are willing to give.<br /><br />Remember, healthy relationships are not built overnight. It takes time, energy and commitment to develop any type of relationship, whether with business associates, family, friends or a romantic partner. So, be happy; be healthy; be whole. Here is to a healthier you!<br /><br />Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Talayah_Stovall<br />boyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16122367307572231119noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381412108652339016.post-39663844238511292192012-05-16T03:06:00.000-07:002012-11-09T03:06:57.412-08:00Characteristics of Healthy Relationships<div style="text-align: justify;">
What are relationships about? Do you know that relationships are interviews, games, serious moments, fleeting moments, angry arguments, loving touches, caring gestures, and so many other things wrapped all into one? Relationships are the true measure of success in our lives. Think about it this way, when you die you cannot take your money, your car, your house, your boat, your job, or anything else with you, but you will have your relationships forever. You will not say "I wish I made more money", when you find yourself on your death bed. You are more likely to say, " I wish I would have loved my spouse better", than anything having to do with money. Here are the top characteristics of healthy relationships so that you can find out if you are in a good relationship or not.<br /><br />1. Communication - This is by far the number one characteristic of a healthy relationship. Without communication the relationship is merely pretend. Communication is not just talking or hearing. It is listening, understanding, non verbal, asking questions, taking time to figure out what is going on, and everything you can think of that has to do with getting your message across and receiving your partners message. There is no point to a relationship or the words you say in a relationship if you cannot back them up with actions that go right along with them. You can say, "I love you", but if you do not show the actions of loving that person, then they are just hallow words.</div>
<a name='more'></a><br /><br />2. Commitment - It seems funny that in our society today one of the things that we devalue the most is commitment. Sure we want to pretend like we are committed to a relationship, but when we have a divorce rate that is nearly one in two marriages and we have more people living together before marriage or instead of marriage it is hard to say that commitment is there. Commitment is being there no matter what. When you are committed you are there whether the money is or not, whether the health is or not, and whether your spouse is wonderful or needs some work. Your job is to help each other become better versions of yourselves and without the commitment you will never achieve this.<br /><br />3, Trust - Trust has to come before love because without trust there cannot possibly be love. Trust is an action of love. When you love someone you are willing to trust them with small things and little things. Sure they are going to let you down sometimes, but that is called being human. It is necessary to understand that and you have to continue to give them your trust or they will not want to trust you either. Relationships have to be built on trust for love to ever be a part of it.<br /><br />4. Love - This is not the last of the characteristics of healthy relationships, but it is one of the most important. It has to come after communication, commitment, and trust, though because you have to have a solid, trusting foundation that is full of good communication and a strong commitment for love to really be a part of the relationship. This is very important because without it your relationship will not end up in marriage or the way you ultimately want it to. These are things that must be present or love will not be there and if that is the case, then you need to rethink the entire relationship.<br /><br />Discover the secrets to Characteristics Of Healthy Relationships and finding the right person for you. Get more info here:<br /><br />Characteristics Of Healthy Relationships<br /><br />Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Benjamin_Robert_Ehinger<br />boyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16122367307572231119noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381412108652339016.post-21878326695853239602012-04-08T03:11:00.000-07:002012-11-09T03:11:20.959-08:00Healthy Relationships - How To Have One<div style="text-align: justify;">
A healthy relationship is based on love and respect. All relationships start out passionately because of curiosity and mystery involved with a new partner. But as soon as partners get to know each other, mystery and curiosity start fading. You get the feeling that she changed towards you. Like she's not that interested anymore. She might even show lack of respect for you by nagging a lot. You start getting on each others nerves more often. If this happens to you, then your relationship is going downhill. This article will give you some tips on how to have a healthy relationship.<br /><br />Why Does This Happen?<br /><br />The fire burns out sooner or later in all relationships, it's normal. You get to know the person next to you so the excitement and curiosity slowly disappear. But by then love has developed. If it hasn't, the relationship won't carry on for long. If you truly love her then you better something about it.<br /><br />If you don't love her or if you're together just out of habit, you're better of meeting other women. Don't force yourself into something you don't want to be a part of. In order to have a healthy relationship, you should be able to avoid some common mistakes couples make.</div>
<a name='more'></a><br /><br />How to Have a Healthy Relationship<br /><br />When the fire is out, things usually get messy. This happens because the partners are attached emotionally to one another and both of them feel like it isn't what it used to be. The man will become needy, which will totally turn off the woman. The woman will start to treat him poorly.<br /><br />The first and most common mistake couples make is that they stop going on dates. This is a huge mistake. Even though the two of you are together it doesn't mean you should stop going out. Make the dates fun and memorable. Go on trips or out for a drink. It doesn't really matter as long as you have fun together.<br /><br />Another common mistake that cripples a healthy relationship is lack of personal space. To avoid this, the two of you must accept that you are unique human beings, with different hobbies, different tastes in music and movies, etc. You must accept and embrace your differences. If for instance she wants to meet with her girlfriends and go out, it's OK. Let her go.<br /><br />This doesn't mean she got tired of you or she wants to get away from you. If she wants to do something on her own, sweet. You can do the same. Go out with your buddies, have a beer and a laugh. It's great to do stuff together but it's also good for a healthy relationship to do stuff separately.<br /><br />Understand her when she's having a rough period. Listen to her, comfort her. Show her you are there to support her. Above all, tell her it's going to be OK. Don't try to solve her problems unless she specifically asks you to. She just wants you to be there for her, for comfort. This will bring the two of you closer together.<br /><br />Conclusion<br /><br />In a healthy relationship both partners have their separate personal space. This may include going out with friends, doing stuff separately. You should still date each other and do spontaneous, fun stuff together. Balance and communication are necessary in maintaining a wonderful relationship.<br /><br />Learn More<br /><br />You can learn more about relationships and how to keep them healthy from the "Irresistible Male [http://www.attractive-to-women.info]" handbook. This is the e-book that will take all the pain away and help you build and sustain wonderful relationships with women. You can download the FREE "Irresistible Male" handbook at <br /><br />Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Florin_Dragota<br />boyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16122367307572231119noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381412108652339016.post-92183201867701101712012-04-07T03:09:00.000-07:002012-11-09T03:10:14.494-08:00Understanding The Significance of Healthy Relationships<div style="text-align: justify;">
One of the phrases we often hear is healthy relationships. Lot of people use this term without understanding what it means. To understand this phrase, let us compare this with another widely used word health. What do you mean by health? It is difficult to define what health is. Bur looking at the antonym of health, we can understand what health is. The opposite of health is disease. If you break down this word, you get two parts dis and ease. So disease means not feeling at ease. Health should mean physically feeling at ease. We also use the word discomfort to refer to a disturbance in our state of health. So it is clear that health means to be comfortable with your body.<br /><br />Using the same line of reasoning, we can understand healthy relationships as being comfortable in relationships. This sounds good. But what does comfortable relationship mean? Does it mean a perfect harmony and understanding? Does it mean we should never have any differences, disputes or quarrels? We often assume that these are the requirements of healthy relationships. Again using the analogy of health, we can see that this need not be the case.<br /><br />Are you in good health? I assume the answer is yes. If not, think of some healthy person known to you. Does a healthy person always remain healthy? Does he never become sick, even for a short period? Obviously, the answer is no. I think we can say with certainty that there is no one in this world, who has not had a health problem some time or the other. Yet, many people consider themselves healthy. They are not wrong. So, a better understanding of health can be as the ability to retain normal physical well being, in spite of occasional problems of illness.</div>
<a name='more'></a><br /><br />Using the same logic, we can say that healthy relationships do not mean the total absence of misunderstandings, differences or other irritants. A relationship will be healthy as long as the people in the relationship are able to restore it to normalcy after every problem. Relationships should be like a spring. A spring gets compressed under pressure but races back to its normal position the moment the pressure is released. A good relationship should be able to withstand the onslaughts of pressures of several kinds and come back to normalcy quickly.<br /><br />So, next time, you find your relationship with someone close to you under strain, do not get frustrated. Carry on with the confidence that the strain is temporary and the relationship will become normal within a short time.<br /><br />Healthy relationships are easy to maintain, if you understand what the term means. Maintaining healthy relationships will make life happy.<br /><br />Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Chitra_Rangaswami<br />boyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16122367307572231119noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381412108652339016.post-49920498557293956372012-04-06T03:07:00.000-07:002012-11-09T03:08:59.332-08:00Using Communication in Healthy Relationships<div style="text-align: justify;">
Probably the most important part of a healthy relationship is to be able to talk and listen to each other. If you do not talk to each other then problems can creep in and spin out of control, you will not know what your partner wants and needs from the relationship, and most importantly if your partner needs your help or support then how will you know how to give it. When you talk every day, sharing each others lives, your hopes and dreams you draw closer to each other and become more intimate with each other. Communication in healthy relationships is vital to keeping them healthy because once you stop talking you start to lose your connection, and when the connection goes, so does your relationship.<br /><br />Communication has such a major impact on our lives because virtually everything that we do whilst around others is communication of some form or another. Verbal communication is one that everyone understands, the one that most people tend to forget about is body language. Body language can be your facial expressions, are you rubbing your hands nervously, how does your voice sound. If you say something then it helps to mean what you say because your body language has an uncomfortable habit of reflecting what you actually think.</div>
<a name='more'></a><br /><br />To get your wants and needs met you need to be able to communicate them, it is a pity that far to many people struggle with their communication skills. How many times have you come across people who seem incapable of getting their message across or are to shy to venture an opinion of their own. Then there are those who communicate in a negative fashion either through the desire to control or whatever game they are embarked upon. These individuals include the antagonistic, the dishonest and those wonderful people who lack the slightest interest in your needs or opinions. These styles of communication do not exist in a healthy relationship, if anything they stand for everything that a healthy relationship is not.<br /><br />When you are in a healthy relationship, you have love, respect and friendship for your partner and as such you communicate in a positive fashion. You are clear on what you want and need (your partner does not have to be psychic in order to translate subtle hints), you are honest in your dealings and communicate in an open and friendly way. Unlike the negative styles of communication you listen to what your partner has to say and take the time to understand their needs and perspectives. Communication in a healthy relationship is not a one track path focused solely on you, it is about sharing who you are with your partner, and working together to build a stronger and more fulfilling relationship.<br /><br />One of the most difficult things that you have to do is listen, and listen objectively. Do not interrupt you partner when they are speaking, do not look to defend yourself from criticism because it could be justified, listen to everything and then, having heard all the facts you can reply. This can be difficult because your mind is automatically working out its response. Stay focused, it will be appreciated and you will be able to deal with the current situation far more intelligently.<br /><br />Do not do anything to deliberately hurt your partner, sometimes we do things by accident but do not be malicious. Look to strengthen your partner by focusing on their positive characteristics, support them when needed and give praise where it is due. Whatever you do, do not make assumptions as to what you thin your partner means. If you do not understand something then ask questions until you do, do not just make a best guess and hope that you are right, that could cause more problems than it is worth, so show your partner that you want to know what is troubling them.<br /><br />To really embrace communication in healthy relationships it is important that you are completely open with you partner. Do not try to be someone else, be yourself, after all that is who your partner fell in love with. Share what happens in your daily life, share your problems, share your emotions, share what is good and what is bad. Opening yourselves up like this deepens and strengthens your bond and makes your relationship pretty much able to deal with anything.<br /><br />Communication in healthy relationships keeps your relationship strong and keeps you both connected. No matter how busy a life you both lead you have to take time to communicate with each other. This could be something as simple as a text to say you love them, you could discuss the meaning of life while you are washing the dishes, or you could talk about your hopes and dreams into the wee small hours. Communication should not be viewed as a chore, it is a chance to talk to your loved one, and as such should be regarded as a pleasure. Learn to enjoy each others company and fill your lives with experiences and memories. In the years reminisce with pleasure about what we have done, and talk about what you have still to do.<br /><br />Being a student of life I thought it about time to get my ideas down in the hope that they will help people with whatever difficulties they are facing. If you want to read further help and guidance in dealing with relationship problems then my site might be able to help. Whatever your situation I wish you luck.<br /><br />Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Michael_Finlayson<br />boyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16122367307572231119noreply@blogger.com0